Getting on my soapbox about why attitudes towards sex and disability need to change. Again.

Yet again I’ve found myself getting on my Twitter soapbox about why attitudes towards disability and sex need to change.

You’re probably all bored of me talking about this by now, but if you’re not, you can head on over to my profile to see the whole thread of tweets I made.  Here’s the first one for you:

Believe it or not, I’m actually sick of talking about this too. I’ve mentioned it on this blog and I’ve even blogged about it for the charity Scope too.  Yes, my mother read it and no, I’m not embarrassed. My dad chose not to read it, but if he had, I still wouldn’t have been embarrassed because why should I be?

Rob and I were together for 10 years and it took me a long time to stop feeling like I was doing something ‘bad’ by having a physical relationship with him .

(Yes, things are rocky right now, but we’re working on them and we’re in a good place. That’s an update for another time. Maybe.)

I spent far too much of my teenage years feeling ashamed, afraid and embarrassed. In fact, I used to wish that I wasn’t attracted to anyone, either sexually or romantically, because of society’s attitudes towards sex and disability. I felt like it was somehow wrong of me because I was always made to sex and relationships weren’t supposed to be for

But I’ll keep talking about it until we manage to end the stigma, because we will. One day.

One thought on “Getting on my soapbox about why attitudes towards sex and disability need to change. Again.

  1. Hi Nicola, I read your posts but, having read them, I never know what to say. Sometimes I write something as a reply but usually think, “Jeesh, that’s rubbish.” and delete it and slink guiltily away. It was even more difficult tonight to write something considering the subject of your post and my Englishness.
    I was going to write something about the film “The Theory of Flight” and how you should write a book or a screenplay or something that revolved around someone like yourself, but it sounded trite and patronising so I deleted it and slunk away (“slunk”? Google says ‘Yes’ but I’m not so sure).
    Then I thought, Christ! Say something just to let her know someone’s out there; so I came back and wrote this. Hopefully other readers will be prompted to just acknowledge their presence and the fact that they are reading too.
    Anyway, I hope you’re doing okay, your writing is getting noticeably better – it’s flowing nicely now. Keep pushing, onwards and upwards.


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